One of the most powerful ways to be in community is to create simple rituals, most especially on days that are not already celebrated on the Gregorian calendar. Countless people the world over are finding their way back to the ancient ways of marking time and celebrating rites of passages, the cross quarters and the seasons.
I recently had the honor of leading a Sacred Drumming circle in co-creation with my extended community for a Solstice Ceremony held at Featherstone Oasis to honor the Divine Masculine.
We gathered in circle with about 25 men forming an inner circle surrounded by an outer ring of women creating an even larger circle. The ceremony was opened by Featherstone Oasis steward Natasha Neece calling in the directions, honoring the spirits of the land and the animals followed by a beautiful transmission from Her Mystery School visionary Jumana Sophia that set the intention to open to a state of profound appreciation of the essential goodness and exalted qualities of the Divine Masculine.
The women circumambulated the men playing frame drums, shaking rattles, signing, laughing, dancing, making eye contact and otherwise extending love and presence to the men in the center. As the procession naturally came to silence and stillness the women took turns speaking their verbal appreciations of the men and their positive attributes to the collective.
As the sun set the group broke out into dancing, drumming, connecting, and eating lovingly prepared foods. The evening closed in the early morning hours when the last to leave said their goodbyes after a late night fireside circle of story sharing and conversation.
There seemed to be some kind of magic to the evening where the circumstances and collective intention were set just right in order for a true feeling of agape love to flow.
So many of the men shared their gratitude and downright awe at the feeling of being seen, celebrated and honored.
There is such a deep need in our world to celebrate with simple gestures our appreciation for each other.
When we align more deeply with the seasons and cycles as our most ancient ancestors have done since the very beginnings of marking time we find greater acceptance, joy, and ease inside the mystery that is masculine and feminine, expansion and contraction, celebration and grieving, shadow and light, living and dying that is forever rising and falling in ourselves and in every other living thing.
Studies show one of the single best things a person can do for their overall health and well being is to make sure they seek out, extend and accept opportunities to be in the company and camaraderie of good people. There are so many ways we can extend gratitude and recognition of the humanity alive in each other.
We can’t always count on others to reach out to us so you may need to create your own opportunities to connect and please remember if someone declines your gesture try not to take it personally! Don’t give up. Open up to the possibility that you can find and co-create community and kinship with others. Keep searching out ways to connect.
A simple ritual you can create is to invite friends over to celebrate the new or full moon. Spend time in circle, drink tea, light a candle, share a prayer, a guided meditation or poetry. It can be so simple and yet getting together with even a gentle intention can be so powerful.
As much as we all need positive human connections, in the end, we come into life alone - and we go out alone.
Never, ever forget to forge the deepest friendship, love affair, and true heartfelt connection first and foremost with your own heart, body, mind and soul and of course with the Source of All Life, however, you yourself name it. When you are secure in the love that can circulate within your own being and find your inherent place in the relation of All Things then every other relationship can exist in deeper appreciation from a place of overflowing fullness and true connection.